Watch out, Jen, Paul will have stinky pee for a week. I can't help but wonder about the rumor that asparagus affects how semen tastes, but I would totally understand you not volunteering such information. Particularly when you have the wet bra issue to contend with.
Paperwork? Patriarchy?
First - KatekatebobatebanannafannafofatemimymoemateKate, the paperwork at the beginning of the marrige will suck, no doubt, but you will have to notify most of those people anyway (why have two grocery store accounts? have a joint one and rack up those points on win-a-turkey games!). And anyway, the rest of your life you will have to explain yes, you are married, no you didn't change names, no, you didn't hyphenate it, yes, the kids have hyphenated names (note additional pain in the ass there), and so on and so on. Ick.
Second - Patriarchy=bad. Not changing name=nothing to do with patriarcy or crushing thereof. I was shocked when my mother changed her name when she got married, and she told me straight out, in one of those touching mother/daughter moments:
"How high are you? You have your father's name, then your husband's. At least you get to choose the husband, because god knows we just get stuck with the dads. Why is this your business anyway?"
It all seemed fair to me.
My pefect solution would involve me and my alleged beloved chosing a last name and BOTH of us changing to it.
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